Love, attention, structure and conversations play an important role in education. Parenting is, on the one hand, guiding and encouraging, so that the child can fully develop the potential he has within him. This mainly concerns the development of motor skills and language. Within the environment in which the child grows up, he or she must be given the opportunity to develop motor skills and language use. On the other hand, raising children involves talking to the child, because raising children is also enculturation : the child is introduced into the norms and values and social context . Moral development, social development and learning to read/write are also developed with regard to knowledge transfer.
Errors in education
Parenting methods lead to adults who can take responsibility for their own actions. The child’s individuality gradually takes shape. Self-responsibility grows little by little. Where people educate, mistakes are made. Developmental psychologists even say that there is no child who is not damaged by their upbringing.
There are two mistakes that parents and supervisors can make:
- Keeping the child small: when the child receives too little stimulation from the parent or supervisor.
- Pushing the child to become pseudo-adults: getting too much stimulation from the parent.
Too much stimulation from the parents:
An example. When parents do a lot with their child, and the child plays little with other children, the child is treated by the parents as a pseudo-adult . Much of what the child undertakes, he undertakes with an adult. The child is often spoken to in an adult tone and the child is involved in everything. Even outside the home situation, the child is often among adults . This could be family. Perhaps a family member will babysit the child, in a neighborhood where not many children play. So the child is once again accompanied by an adult at the babysitting family member’s home. The consequence in this case may be: when the child is in a situation where there are peers , such as at a daycare center or playgroup, the child feels insecure and strange in this relatively unfamiliar situation . The child has difficulty making contact with other children. But also because adults do and have done a lot together with the child, the child walks with his soul under his arm. Its time is occupied to such an extent by parents and possibly other adults that it cannot entertain itself. Dissatisfied, aggrieved and grumbling behavior can also be a consequence.
Too little stimulation from the parents:
A child who has already reached the age where he can do a number of things independently , but is still patronized and pampered by his mother as if he were still a baby, is hampered in his development. He is treated younger than intended and is therefore unable to develop properly. A three-year-old child should not be underestimated and can already do quite a lot of things on his own. The great thing is that, for example, a three-year-old child indicates that he wants to do things himself and this is an opportunity that you as a parent/guardian should not miss. If a child does not receive enough stimulation, the parent may speak to him or her in gibberish. She does not offer him what is age appropriate. What she offers has gotten stuck somewhere. This is understandable, because childhood passes quickly and it only takes a short time for children to be so adorable and baby-like. But it does have consequences. The child can be ‘unworldly’ about this and not respond sufficiently to stimuli, for example at the daycare center or playgroup. The child may find many things scary (after all, they are kept small!) and may not take any initiatives for social interaction. Raising children also means that the child learns something from their own beliefs in a way that is aimed at the child’s self-development.