Tips

Topics of conversation for men on the first date

Congratulations. You managed to make a date. You want the conversation to be relaxed. What are you talking about then? Some starting points follow.

Why?

Show interest in her daily life. Try to encourage her to talk about herself. So ask about her hobbies. This not only gives you an idea of her personality, but also gives the lady in question the idea that you are really interested in her inner workings. If someone has a lot of active activities, then she is probably very active. This information can be important if you are an absolute ‘couch potato’ who enjoys nothing more than hanging out in front of the TV in the evenings. Then you’re probably not a good match. Also ask about her work. Most people are very involved in their work and like to talk about their activities. Now you also have to listen carefully. Try to remember her coworkers’ names for the next date. Listen to the gist of her stories. Does she just complain about others or does she talk passionately about the content of her work? From her experience of events you can deduce a few things about her personality. Furthermore, the lady in question will certainly appreciate it if you are interested in her daily concerns.

Her dreams

Ask her what her biggest dream is. Then you can come to surprising insights. You immediately know whether this lady wants to have children as soon as possible, or whether she wants to travel the world first. This is also useful to know in connection with your own (near) future plans. If the ladies immediately start talking about children on the first date and you are really not ready for that yet, make this clear. Then at least you don’t create false expectations. Furthermore, everyone wants to be heard. Genuine interest is usually received positively by the ladies. Also tell us something about yourself. Men tend to be closed. Talk about your work (not too long unless you are in the same sector) and talk in detail about your hobbies. Then you also give her the opportunity to form an impression of you.

Laugh a lot and get the bill

Try to smile a lot. She then thinks that you can appreciate her humor. This will ensure that the lady in question relaxes. That certainly keeps the first date fun. Be careful not to laugh too enthusiastically at bad jokes. Otherwise you will hear it all your life! Talk about funny or memorable events in your life. The rules of equality apply in everyday life. But on the first date the man usually pays. Next time, feel free to split the bill or let her pay.

Give positive feedback

There is often an awkward silence at the end of the first date. If you think it’s worth meeting again, say so. Something along the lines of: ,It was fun. I think we have a connection. Shall we meet again?,. If the lady in question does not suit you, be correct, but tell this in a polite, honest manner. This creates clarity. Then say something like: ,It was interesting to meet you. However, I don’t feel a connection. I hope you had a nice evening, but as far as I’m concerned, we won’t meet again., Then you say goodbye properly and show respect. The world is small. There is a good chance that you will meet each other again. Then you want to be able to look the other person in the eye with your head held high.

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