Personality Development Children – Signals Problems

The personality development of children varies. One child will develop differently than another child. But what is the ultimate age at which certain personality traits are correct or adequate in a child? This article provides characteristics of children aged 3 to 6 years to identify whether there may be a developmental delay, obstacles, an abnormal development course or perhaps a developmental disorder in terms of personality.

Personality Development Child – Checklist Signs of Personality Problems

Characteristics and skills in the area of personality are listed below, followed by (a guideline for) the ultimate age at which the behavior or expressions of the personality traits are appropriate or appropriate for a child. In other words, whether or not they are age appropriate or at age level.

Developmental Delay Personality – Personality Development Disorder

Developmental delay – Developmental disability

Although every child develops at their own pace, there comes a certain time or age when a child should be able to master a certain skill. This is related to the normal, average development course of average (early) childhood development in the field of personality.

Developmental delay: We speak of a delay if a child deviates only slightly from the average.
Developmental disorder: A disorder is when a child deviates greatly from the average, is very behind or is different from his or her peers.

Identifying Personality Problems

It should be expressly noted that this is not a diagnostic criteria or a causal model, but only a checklist for global screening and identifying characteristics in order to (early) identify any developmental problems.

Personality Development Overview – Personality Development Course

The overviews below regarding the development of personality are suitable for parents, caregivers, group leaders, general practitioners, clinics, teachers, school doctors, etc. to identify any problems and raise the alarm, i.e. to call for help and guidance. There is a division into 5 signals, overviews with the associated behaviors (characteristics/skills), indicating when/at what age the behavior in question should no longer occur. Or put differently: if certain personality traits still occur, this can be considered deviant.

Not Age Appropriate Personality Traits – Hindrance to Developmental Progress

In terms of personality development, the following signals are a sign that the child’s development is not progressing undisturbed or at age level:

Dependence and lack of willpower
Passivity and lack of initiative
Disturbed or disturbed development of conscience
Fears or anxious behavior
Insufficient distinction between reality and fantasy

The above signals are discussed in more detail in the overviews below, with maximum age limits.

Personality Development Phases – Signals Personality Formation 3 to 7 years

Dependence and Lack of Willpower	Ultimate Age
Child shows no self-confidence	3 years
Demands all attention, is strongly claiming, insatiable	3 years
Child is so withdrawn that you almost forget about him/her	3 years
Has a very negative attitude: “I can’t do it, I can’t do it anyway”	4 years
Has superficial curiosity, shows no real interest	4 years
Is suspicious of others, keeps a constant eye on them	5 years
The child cannot persevere with anything and does not complete anything	5 years
Child is everyone’s friend	6 years
Child has no opinion of his own	6 years

Passivity and Lack of Initiative	Ultimate Age
Child does not investigate objects on his own	2 years
Does not make any attempt to make contact on his own	3 years
The child does not make an effort and thinks everything is fine	3 years
Doesn’t know what it wants, can’t make a choice	4 years
Suffers from extreme fear of failure: “I can’t”	4 years
Withdraws because others can do everything better	5 years
Child becomes ashamed (too) quickly	5 years
Child does not dare to tell his/her story in the circle	5 years
Child always compares himself with others	6 years
He or she makes a lot of grimaces, plays the clown (clownish behavior)	7 years

Disturbed – Disturbed Development of Conscience	Ultimate Age
The child does not care if he/she causes pain to others	4 years
Can’t make a connection between what it does and how people respond to it	4 years
Is really not sensitive to punishment from adults (doesn’t really matter)	5 years
Does not sense what parents think is good and not good	5 years
Child often takes things away	5 years
Is always afraid of criticism, even when everything is going well	5 years
Child jokes a lot, seems to believe in it himself	6 years
Child shows no remorse or remorse	6 years
Tries to please others at his own expense	6 years
Child wants to do everything (too) perfectly	6 years

Fears – Anxious Behavior	Ultimate Age
Has been sleeping restlessly for a long period of time, is often awake	any age
Is extremely anxious when strangers enter	3 years
The child cannot be left alone for a while	3 years
Child cannot tolerate loud noises	4 years
Child is afraid of other children	4 years
Child cannot defend himself against teasing	5 years
Child still wets the bed every night	6 years
Child lives in a dream world	6 years
Child is afraid of/in the dark	7 years

Insufficient Distinction Fantasy – Reality	Ultimate Age
Always plays with the same object, does not dare to play other games	3 years
Child becomes anxious about his own fantasies	4 years
Extreme daydreaming, which makes him/her difficult to listen	5 years
Thinks it is another person or animal	5 years
Lives completely in a world of insects and reptiles	6 years
Always assumes that others also know or see his/her fantasy boyfriend	6 years
Child thinks fairy tales are true	6 years
Is very afraid of getting dirty with sand, water, clay	6 years
Child is easy to fool	7 years
Child has only one topic of conversation	7 years

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