Speed dating is an increasingly popular form of dating. Here you can read what you need to know for your first speed date, what you can expect from speed dating and whether speed dating is the right form of dating for you.
Speed dating
What is speed dating? How does a speed date work? Here you will find the answers to these two questions and hopefully you will learn a little more about speed dating in general.
Speed dating is becoming increasingly popular
Speed dating is a popular way to help you find the right partner. It is an event for men and women to meet in large numbers with the aim of finding the right partner in the shortest possible time. This does not mean that same-sex singles do not have the option of speed dating. There are also speed dating events especially for gays and lesbians.
Who chooses a Speed Date?
Very briefly, it is singles who lead very busy lives who participate in speed dating events. Normally they do not have time to look for a partner through traditional dating methods . They want to find a good partner quickly without it costing them too much time.
How does Speed Dating work?
Each speed dating event is hosted and pre-planned by an organization that specializes in this form of dating. A good, reputable organizer is crucial for a successful speed date . A bad organizer can not only give you a bad evening, but can also leave you with bad memories and less self-confidence. So make sure you are well informed about the organization before you participate in a speed dating event.
Each participant has been pre-screened for safety (another good reason to date a good, well-known organizer). During the event itself, short, one-on-one conversations will be held between you and a possible future partner. These conversations usually last a maximum of ten minutes.
Once you have had your first conversation, you move on to the next partner for another conversation. It is often jokingly compared to musical chairs, but this does bring you into contact with a lot of people, giving you a better chance of finding the right partner.
The time limit is specially set to give everyone equal opportunities. This time limit also prevents you from focusing entirely on one person who will later reveal that there was no mutual good feeling.
No personal contact details during speed dating
No personal contact details will be exchanged during this speed dating event. This prevents you from giving all your personal contact details too quickly to someone who later turns out that you do not want to get to know this person better, but that your choice has fallen on another person or other persons. It is not a pleasant feeling for you that you have given your personal contact details to someone you have rejected. The speed date is monitored by the host of the organization and he ensures a safe feeling. The atmosphere is casual, pleasant and it is a nice way to meet many different people.
At the end of the event, all participants will hand in a list of the discussion partners they would like to speak to again. This happens at the end of the evening to avoid disappointments during the event. The organization will then look at the lists and check how many matches there are. If there is a match for you, you will usually receive the email address of the partner who would like to speak to you again the next day. I say usually here because the way of handling varies considerably between different organizations.
Speed dating does not have to be a quick solution to your dating problems
Speed dating does not necessarily mean that you achieve results quickly. Speed dating is just like dating in the regular world. There will be people who have multiple matches in their first speed dating event and others will need multiple events to have one success.
The speed dating process will differ slightly per organizer and perhaps per event of one organizer, but the basic principles of speed dating remain more or less the same. Looking for a partner through speed dating can be a very pleasant way to find the love of your life.