This article is part of a series of articles about ‘dating the wrong person,’ in other words: wrong men and wrong women. In this article: men who argue with many people around them and who believe that the conflict is always the fault of others, there is often something wrong with that. Men who argue with many people are usually unable to build balanced relationships. So be on your guard. Isn’t he a swindler, a pathological liar or a swindler?
Dating a serious date
To find a serious date you actually need some people skills. If you have little knowledge of people or are quite gullible by nature, this can be a handicap. This makes you more vulnerable to unreliable dates. If you know yourself to believe or trust people too quickly, ask people who care about you (close friends and family members, for example) for their opinion about your date and try to value the opinions of those others. There are also dating websites that specialize in serious dates. Of course, this does not mean that they know everyone personally, but it does mean that they try to attract serious people through the content and message on their website. People who are looking for love and long-term relationships.
Queerulants, swindlers, quarrelsome people and pathological liars have a few similarities, they all derive pleasure from a certain battle that has to be fought. There are big differences.
They complain about
A querulant is a person who argues with everyone around him. They are quick to argue because they quickly feel that they are being wronged. They often do not see it objectively but only reason from their own experience. These people often have arguments with their doctor, dentist, neighbors, their family, their former friends, their employer, with the store clerk on the corner, with an acquaintance, with lawyers and psychiatrists, or with the dog owner across the street. , and so onQuerulants assume that they are always right. Anyone who is not for them is against them. Sometimes they believe that conspiracies are being hatched against them, because they have gotten into arguments with so many people or they find so little support in their environment that they do not assume that they may be wrong, but that they assume that all people conspire against them. If the quarrelsome man (or woman) writes letters, makes many phone calls, files lawsuits to prove his/her right, while this is disproportionate to the cause, then it is possible that you are dealing with a quarrelsome person. It is very difficult to live with a querulant. His/her whole life revolves around conflicts, struggles and the way in which he/she can get his/her right or satisfaction.
The troublemaker
I’m not going to let you tell me what to do. Not every troublemaker is a troublemaker. Some people simply cannot handle criticism and feel everything as an attack on their person. There are plenty of quarrelsome people who are simply intolerant and therefore quickly get into fights with other people. The troublemaker quickly steps on his or her toes and then makes a big scene. Argument seekers are also quick to argue with their own partner. Because they always start from their own truth, there is no self-insight and no room for other opinions. Trouble seekers have very long toes and are easily offended or hurt. They cannot tolerate criticism and so the contact eventually becomes very one-sided. The arguer is always right and you must always agree with him or her.
The pathological liar
The pathological liar also regularly has disagreements with people around him or her because he or she lies and deceives so much. However, compulsive liars can lie very well and often appear convincing, which is also the feeling of power they enjoy. So if you meet a new date who often receives calls from people who, for whatever reason, believe that your new date has not treated them well, ask yourself what kind of meat you have in the tank. Normally people are not constantly harassed by other people, unless they are indeed indebted to those people. So don’t be fooled by sweet talk from pathological liars. These types of liars take pleasure in deceiving others and that gives them a sense of power and success.
If people claim that your new partner has treated them poorly, it makes sense to listen to their arguments. If your new partner doesn’t think this is a good idea, this should ring a bell.
The scammer
The scammer is a man (or woman) who goes towards his/her goal in a very charming way. His victim is pampered and with beautiful stories he or she is convinced to lend the scammer money or to invest money in some project. The scammer has many methods to cheat people out of money. The scammer’s goal is: ‘how do I get the money in your account into my pocket?’ If you date a scammer, he/she will tell you success stories and make nice promises. As long as you’re willing to invest money in him or something else… You’ll be left penniless in the end.
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