This article is part of a series of articles about ‘dating the wrong person,’ in other words: wrong men and wrong women. In this article: a she-wolf in sheep’s clothing wraps you around her finger, but after a while she turns out to not be as sweet and gentle as she pretended. She is jealous, dominant, and when she is angry she humiliates you to the core… And what should you do if your date is a nymphomaniac? Taking Viagra or Valium?
Love, finding a nice date, friendship, a relationship or marriage… Ultimately, all people may be looking for the same thing. A roof over our heads, enough to eat and drink, safety and of course love and everything that goes with it… Where can you find a reliable, fun date? It is and remains a matter of remaining critical and taking the time to really get to know someone before delving too deeply into a relationship.
Signs that your date is not suitable
Finding a relationship or a nice date can be done in many ways. By participating in social activities, through work or going out. If you are a man looking for a woman, be wary of certain types you don’t want:
- The She-Wolf in sheep’s clothing. (She seems charming, but you soon discover that she is a real bitch.)
- Charming and attractive, and fake! (Always nicely dressed, attractive and beautiful, but also narcissistic.)
- Compulsive seductress. (She wants to seduce every man, but she just as quickly beats them down again.)
- Nymphomaniac. Sex, sex and more sex. (Until you hope she’ll fake a headache for once.)
- Possessive type. (jealous. She almost stalks you. She constantly wants to know what you have done, where and with whom. It tires you out)
The she-wolf in sheep’s clothing
‘I am goodness itself, that’s why I kept meeting the wrong men…’
A wrong woman… there are different types. The she-wolf in sheep ‘s clothing has a narcissistic theatrical character and can therefore act very well. When you meet her, she intuitively assumes the role of the type of woman you like; she has a keen sense of what role she needs to take on to make your head spin. We assume that you are looking for a woman with a sweet character, and that you are sensitive to vulnerable women. The narcissistic theatrical seductress can then tell you many stories of nasty ex-partners, none of whom she liked because there was something wrong with them. ,I’m so gullible too, I keep falling for it…,, she says, batting her eyelashes.
This is of course taken a bit out of context, but narcissistic people are often very charming. They can manipulate like the best and many people around them do not immediately realize that these people use others as objects.
Charming and attractive, and fake!
She seems so vulnerable to you and she has been through so much that it seems like a wonderful task for you to save her and pamper her. Luckily she met you. Her life will now change quickly. She is charming and her looks are the most important thing to her. You make her feel so good and she has been looking for the right one for so long. She is also grateful that you pay so much attention to her, because she is terribly insecure. You wanting to protect, comfort and pamper her is exactly what she needs. After a while you discover that she needs a lot of money to comfort herself with clothes and make-up and other luxurious things. Her whole life seems to revolve around her appearance, and you don’t really get a sense of her inner self. If she’s angry, put it away. You would never have expected that behind her civilized appearance. Then suddenly she won’t leave a single hair of yours intact. And when she is sad, she is in such a serious state that you wonder if she needs psychiatric help. Sometimes she even talks about suicide or she appears to have so much resentment in her that it scares you. She does have friends, but they are always new friends, because she somehow quickly loses interest in her friends. At first she puts her friends on a pedestal, but if others do anything she doesn’t like, she immediately breaks off the friendship. Then she no longer has a good word to say for them and even hates them.
Jealous and dominant
She also appears to be jealous of you or other people at times when you wouldn’t expect it and she can be terribly dominant. She manages to get a good position at work through manipulations and lies. She wraps the boss around her finger and climbs the ranks faster and faster. She has no problem being sweet to people’s faces, but playing people against each other behind their backs and lying about them. Money and status and her appearance, those are the things that are most important to her in life. She is jealous of other women and always wants to be the center of attention. Relationships do not last long in her life, because they always have to follow her rules and demands. At first you think you have drawn a lottery ticket, but that ticket soon turns out to be a problem. One day you too do something she doesn’t like, and you are promptly cast aside. You can hardly believe it, but it is true. Building and maintaining a relationship appears not to be possible for this type of women. They have often been married several times, with the marriages often happening on a whim. They have also had many other relationships. They traded one partner for another and broke a lot of hearts. Friends come and go, because she quarrels with everyone, sooner or later. Family relationships are broken or in ruins and according to her it is always someone else’s fault. Women who handle relationships this way need help. As a partner you have to be very strong in your shoes to be able to deal with it.
The compulsive seductress
,Would you like to have another glass of wine at my house?,
The seductress, who is not looking for a relationship, seeks confirmation from men by seducing them. Because she manages to seduce as many men as possible and get them into her bed, she gets the feeling that she is worthwhile, beautiful and important… She exchanges men as if they were old shoes. The temptress is actually a female player. Underneath her mask often lies an insecure person who has a boundless need for confirmation of her fragile ego.
The nymphomaniac
‘I have such a desire for sex…’
I can be brief about the nymphomaniac. She is every man’s dream, but a dream that is only fun for a few months. You then have to recover for three weeks or take Viagra or Cialis. Far too tiring and far too one-sided. Men who meet a real nymphomaniac often find this fantastic at first, but later often repulsive. The relationship is all about sex and it can turn the man off. It is never enough and it becomes a mandatory number. Well, one mandatory number is far too few of course… That will be two or three or five per day.
You are mine
‘Would you like another cold beer, honey? Just sit tight. I’ll bring you the newspaper. Just relax darling. I’m going to cook something delicious for us in a moment. A nice candlelit dinner… Then I will massage the soles of your feet and put you in bed. Shall I clean your windows right away?’
After the first meeting, the you are mine woman encapsulates you as if you were a fly that has flown into her web. She would prefer to move in with you as soon as possible, forget about the pill and get pregnant. After your first meeting, she immediately tidies up your entire house, cooks for you the next day, calls you daddy or darling, and tries to make you lazy and therefore dependent on her by spoiling you enormously and by doing everything for you. Soon she will be indispensable in your life. Her goal? Find a man as quickly as possible who will not run away from her worrying caring behavior, and a father for her future children.
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