It is better to stay away from men (or women) who are very jealous. Extreme jealousy usually manifests itself by checking the partner, suspecting adultery, and constantly asking if you still love him or her. Soon the jealous partner’s entire life revolves around controlling the other. You receive dozens of calls a day, not for fun, but because your jealous partner wants to know what you are doing.
Is my partner cheating?
‘I love you so much, that’s why I’m so jealous. I just don’t want to lose you… Words to that effect are often the excuse of very jealous people. However, jealousy is not an expression of love. Often a very jealous partner is insecure about himself. The possessive type is easily jealous and jealousy controls his or her entire life, but also yours.
The phone rings (too) often because your partner constantly wants to check what you are doing, where you are, whether you are answering the phone, who you are with, who you spoke to that day, and so on . If he (or she) gets the chance, he might read your mail, your emails and text messages and your chat sessions on MSN out of jealousy. If he or she has your password to certain services, the jealous suspicious partner might even check who you’ve been in contact with. Do you have a diary? If given the chance, a jealous partner may read it thoroughly and rage about past relationships. The bottom line is that someone who is very jealous can exhibit obsessive behavior that puts a lot of strain on a relationship. Many relationships then break down, exactly what the jealous partner had wanted to prevent. That is why it makes sense to seek help in time if you are very jealous by nature or if your partner is extremely jealous.
Jealous, constantly afraid that the other person will cheat
Jealousy within a relationship can destroy the relationship completely. A little bit of jealousy in a healthy way cannot be compared to extreme jealousy. Someone who is extremely jealous can give the other the feeling that very ordinary things can no longer be discussed, because even a visit to the butcher or supermarket, for example, gives the jealous partner ideas about cheating. A very jealous partner will interpret an ordinary conversation between you and someone else as flirting with someone else. The relationships are lost and a jealous partner does not see it objectively.
Jealous partner
A jealous partner is ,exhausting,, to say the least. Because he or she is looking for something behind everything, it is becoming increasingly difficult to interact with each other in a relaxed manner. After all, very ordinary things can provoke a jealous partner to suspicion and emotion. Going to a party together can cause a lot of tension. What if someone of the opposite sex greets you kindly, the jealous partner is already suspicious. Living with an excessively jealous partner can be exhausting.
Friendships with others?
People around you often also indicate that they think that your partner often makes an effort to control you. ,Is he calling you again?, A jealous date may end up constantly bothering you. He or she increasingly accuses you of cheating or flirting with others, while you are really not aware of any wrongdoing. Your friends are often also threatening to a jealous partner because he or she is afraid that they will talk you out of him/her. The jealous partner may say that others are out to drive you and him or her apart, and the only way you can supposedly appease him or her is to stop accepting people of the opposite sex as friends. According to jealous partners, friendships between a man and a woman can only end in sex. He/she would prefer that you no longer associate with other men or women at all. Not at school or work, not on social media and not on MSN. From now on it will no longer be easy for you to say that you like or like a colleague at work, because then your date will immediately find out all kinds of things about it. Every phone call creates tension, because your jealous partner wants to know who it was and if there is something behind it.
Jealous of Ex-partner
Every person can feel feelings of jealousy within a relationship, but it is usually easy to handle. For example, jealousy of ex-lovers is common, but many people can deal with it well. After all, every person has a past. But a very jealous partner is often also extremely jealous of your ex. Perhaps the jealous partner accuses you of still fantasizing about your ex or exes. Talking about an ex or a memory from the past can lead to arguments and an attack of jealousy. The thought that the ex has also been intimate with you is unbearable and difficult to handle. If your partner is very jealous, it is best to seek professional help together.
Possessive or jealous partner is usually insecure
Jealous people are usually insecure people. Although it is annoying for a jealous person to be jealous, you are not helping these people by adapting to their demands and whims. Giving in to a jealous partner’s demands and putting up with his or her jealousy is not sustainable for long because it often interferes with an ordinary social life. It’s just too tiring to have to defend yourself against things you didn’t do. Therefore, a possessive partner is not a suitable partner. Many relationships of these types of jealous people fail because it is impossible to live with them. If someone is sickly jealous, it is best to first seek help from a psychologist, which usually helps. If you have an extremely jealous partner, get help before the relationship ends.
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