Nerves run through your body: you are in love and you have your first date! The first date is always exciting! How do you plan a first date with someone you know through a dating site? Planning your first date, what is wisdom? What should you do or not do? Want to pull out all the stops or take your date to a nice bar? What first date tips should you take to heart? What should you do on the first date? What should you not do?
Dating site
It will be extra exciting if you meet each other through a dating site: you have had intensive contact via the internet, but will it also click as nicely when you meet in real life? A first date with someone you know through a dating site can be better in real life, but it can also be disappointing!
First appointment tips
Planning the first date, what is wisdom? An evening full of plans or a quiet evening? Especially if you know each other from a dating site, it is strongly recommended that you plan a quiet evening. Suppose things don’t sound very nice between you, and you have a long evening planned. It is better to choose a nice bar where it is not too noisy and get to know each other in a cozy corner. If you have a connection in real life, you can talk together endlessly.
Cozy bar
Have you known each other for a while, but will this really be your first time together? Then this first date can also be better or worse. Wisdom is not to plan a busy evening, but to meet up in a cozy bar. Choose a bar that isn’t too loud and where you can talk in a cozy corner. Choose a cozy, trendy bar or café, where everyone feels comfortable. If the weather is nice, you can meet on a cozy terrace. Never choose an expensive location, not everyone feels comfortable there!
During the day
What should you do on the first date? Always be yourself and be genuinely interested in the other person. Ask lots of open questions and listen carefully. Let the other person talk as much as possible. Always try to talk as little about yourself as possible during a first date. If you are genuinely interested in the other person, the questions will arise naturally. Try to find similarities, do you have a common hobby? Do you like the same music? What will you do if you win the lottery? Try to entertain the other person as little as possible, be yourself and let the other person talk as much as possible. Follow up on what the other person says and share fun experiences that fit the subject.
Body language
Pay attention to each other’s body language during the first date. Good signs are:
- Do you mirror each other’s movements and postures?
- Do you have a lot of eye contact and do you smile a lot during eye contact?
- Do you laugh together a lot?
- Do you laugh at each other’s jokes?
- Do you casually touch each other during the conversation?
The above body language during the first date are good signals.
Disappoints
What to do if the first date is disappointing? The big advantage if you have met together in a cozy bar is that you can leave after the first drink. Even if the first date is disappointing and you sit on a terrace, you can leave at any time.
Windfall!
During your first date in the cozy bar, the date is not too bad! You two are having such a nice chat that the time flies by! You like each other and it clicks! Spontaneously asking your date if he/she will join you for a bite to eat can be very positive. Are you unknown in the city? Ask the bartender for a nice restaurant nearby.
Dancing
Is the first date not too bad and are you still having fun after dinner? Perhaps the date can be extended by dancing together, especially recommended for young people. But having a drink at the restaurant bar is highly recommended.
The second date
And the best of all: make an appointment for the following week! If you have such a good time and you get along so well, there is no reason to make a follow-up appointment. Arrange a second date with your date!
To kiss or not to kiss?
If you have made a second date, there is no need to kiss: the confirmation that you like each other has already been made by going on a second date. However, if you feel that the evening is not complete without kissing each other, then give each other a kiss. If the body language and conversation went nice and smoothly and there was a real connection, you can consider kissing. Kissing usually happens spontaneously and there are no rules. A French kiss during the first date may be a bit too quick. A kiss on the cheek is better during the first date. Don’t rush into anything, if you like each other there will be plenty of opportunities to kiss. It’s more fun to look forward to it.