Do you want to bring more romance into your relationship but don’t know exactly where to start? It has been said that women generally value romance more than men. However, it may well be the case that women and men both like romantic things, but that women find different things romantic than men. If your girlfriend indicates that she is looking for more romance in the relationship, it is time to do something with that signal. Tips for romantic moments. Also useful for Valentine’s Day.
The word ‘romance’ consists of 9 letters. You can link each letter to a romantic act or atmosphere. This is purely a coincidence, but still fun to check out if you’re looking for more romance in your relationship. Every relationship eventually becomes a bit of a drag. The negative connotation of the word ‘rut’ is not entirely justified, because satisfaction equals happiness in life. If you are satisfied with what you have, you are actually happy as a person. Unhappiness in life is generally associated with things or situations that we don’t have, or that we have lost, or that we would like to have, or that we would like to have more of. Romance in a relationship is one of those things that can be missing in a relationship, and the lack of romance can be so important to many that a relationship will fail if the romance is missing. You usually get signals in time that perhaps a little more romance is needed. For example, your partner occasionally says that it has become such a routine, or your partner indicates that nothing romantic ever happens again… So if your partner indicates that there is a greater need for romance, then go with it get started and don’t underestimate its importance.
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The letters of the word ‘romance’ can serve as a reminder to bring more romance into your relationship.
The R for: generous
Generous. You could see the R for ‘Romance’ as the R for ‘generous’. Give your loved one a present. It doesn’t have to be expensive if you have little money, because even a homemade card, or a single wrapped chocolate, or a single rose, can make a person’s heart beat faster. Do you have a little more to spend? Then a ring or bracelet is a romantic gift. Or surprise your loved one with a romantic dinner.
The O for: unexpected
Unexpected. The O in the word ‘romance’ stands for ‘unexpected.’ Think of a surprise. A romantic surprise, like a picnic you organized, just for the two of you. Or write her or him a poem, or a sweet little note, and send it. Post from you will surprise her (or him). Handwritten notes are very valuable for any romantic. Otherwise, stick a note on the mirror in the bathroom that says something romantic. Just because you love her/him. Do something unexpected. If necessary, throw a ‘Because I love you surprise party’ and invite all your friends to celebrate your love for your partner.
The M for: beautiful things
Beautiful things: The M stands for ‘Beautiful’. Beautiful romantic music; beautiful romantic films; reading a passage from a romantic story; nice clothes; beautiful flowers; beautiful candlelight; tell him or her how beautiful you think he/she is… Or write a poem for your loved one. These are all things that come with romance.
The A for: attentive
Thoughtful. Be attentive. It may sound a bit old-fashioned, but courtesy is still something that makes an impression in love. It costs nothing, just a little respect. For example, help her with her coat, hold the front door of the car open for her, tell her how nice she looks… Or help him with a chore, pour him something, cook something tasty, massage his shoulders, say that you find him attractive to look at. Emphasize his or her strengths and call him smart, wise, strong… Or carry her bags, inquire how his or her family is doing, ask how he or she is doing at school or at work…
The N for: curiosity
The N in ‘romance’ stands for ‘curiosity.’ Show interest in your loved one’s personality. Ask questions about her interests, work or studies. Show your curiosity about her dreams and wishes and future plans. Show interest in her or his family and friends. Ask questions so that he/she can tell you what he or she finds important in life. In short: show interest in who she/he is and show interest in the people who are important to your partner.
The T for: tenderness
Tender. The T in ‘romance’ definitely stands for tenderness. Tenderness is expressed in soft things, sweet words, soft caresses, holding hands, kissing her fingers while looking deeply into her eyes, stroking someone’s hair, and so on. Be tender, while beautiful classical music plays in the background, while the candles flicker on the table, while the birds chirp in the trees or the crickets chirp…
The I for: endearing
Endearing. The I in the word ‘romance’ stands for ‘engaging’. Engaging is another word for charming, kind, modest, sympathetic. We simply find people who possess these qualities to be the most pleasant to be around. So show your best side. Be modest and sociable, and avoid whining about the differences between you. Avoid pointless arguing about small things, don’t make accusations, and deal with jealousy and suspicion. Look at what is there, instead of what is missing. After all, no relationship is perfect.
The E for: emotion
Emotion. Romance is about emotion. That is why the letter E is in the ‘word; romance for ‘emotion.’ Dare to give something of yourself if you want to bring more romance into a relationship. Say romantic things and show your soft side. Show emotion, because when you show emotion you also say that you trust the other person. Dare to show your emotions, it usually strengthens the bond.
The K for: kisses
Kisses. Simple (but always effective) are kisses. The letter K of the last letters in the word ‘romance.’ So give your partner soft kisses to your heart’s content on the cheek, on the lips, on the neck, on the fingers, on the hair, behind the ear… These are the nicest kisses there are. Soft and stimulating.
The power of a picnic
Maybe everyone has a romantic image of a picnic. When we hear the word picnic, we think of sunny days, of times gone by, of chirping birds, of a lawn full of wild flowers with a rug full of treats and a picnic suitcase on top. A glass of white wine in the shade of a tree… The sky is blue and the day is slow and languid. Is the weather nice? Then have a picnic outside, preferably in a park under an old large tree with low-hanging branches, near the water. Is the weather cold? You can also have a picnic then. Namely in your own living room. Place a cheerful rug on the floor, put tasty snacks on it, two glasses and a bottle of wine, and invite your loved one for a special home picnic. Look up a video on YouTube with bird sounds or the sound of a jungle. Success assured.
Romantic turnoffs
There are a number of romantic turn-offs that you should definitely avoid, for example:
- Whatever romantic act you want to perform will fall apart if you don’t smell nice, if you forgot to brush your teeth, or if you still have some sleeping soup in your eyes. And if you take your girlfriend out to dinner, it is also a romantic letdown if you ask her at the end of the evening if she wants to pay half the bill. So only ask someone to a restaurant or a movie if you can actually treat that person. Otherwise, it’s better to cook at home or put on a movie at home, which can also be very romantic in itself.
- If you like to talk about yourself, be careful. Avoid talking about yourself all evening. Many people will apparently be able to conceal their annoyance, but it can be a major romantic turn-off.
- Giving a woman lingerie can look bad. Not everyone finds such a gift particularly romantic.
- Don’t talk about your ex or flirt with others, these are also real romantic turnoffs
Looking at the moon
You’ve probably seen a picture of two lovers staring at the moon together in the dark. Their silhouettes appear black or against the white glow of the moon. This is a classic, but it still works. Is a full moon expected? Then invite your loved one to look at the moon together. A free spectacle, and it is free romance from nature. On a mild summer evening it is ideal to go outside and watch the moon in a beautiful spot. But if it is cold, or you can’t go outside, you can also view the moon from your window. Provide a romantic drink and you have performed a romantic act that your partner will not soon forget. Even if comet showers are expected, you can surprise your loved one with a few hours of shooting stargazing, and don’t forget to make romantic wishes every time you see a star fall.
Digital romance
We live in a digital age, but you can also express your love for your partner online and thus perform a romantic act. It’s wonderful when your partner wants to let the whole world know that you, and you alone, are the one for him/her. So upload a picture of a beautiful red heart and add how much you love him or her. Or send him or her a romantic digital card by email.
Candlelight or other atmospheric light
Light strongly determines the atmosphere. Soft mood lighting gives us peace and relaxes us, creating space to let go of stressful matters and focus on each other. That is why atmospheric lighting is very important for romance. Fluorescent lights at a dinner party can quickly ruin your romantic event, so always try to have romantic affairs take place in the right lighting. For example, a few tea lights in a few pots in different places in the room can work wonders. Candlelight, colored LED light, or lanterns with atmospheric lighting create a romantic atmosphere.
The language of eyes
You can say without words that you love someone by looking deeply into each other’s eyes. Add candlelight and a glass of wine, and your partner will melt for you. (If it’s okay) Don’t stare, but look deep into the eyes of your loved one, smile shyly or determinedly, and say something sweet.
Little surprises
Surprising your partner with little things can quickly give a relationship a romantic boost. A box of chocolate, or a postcard with some sweet words, a note on the table or hidden in a lunch box… Put a rose in a bottle of water on the table, set the table and cook before he/she comes home, with some romantic elements such as candlelight at the table… Flower petals on a bed full of pillows. Heart shapes. These are all things with which you can unexpectedly surprise your loved one and which can strengthen the bond between you.
Romantic gifts
There are many romantic gifts to think of, in fact, many gifts that you carefully choose for your relationship are quickly experienced as proof of love. But some gifts are not romantic, such as:
- a tool for a man.
- a household appliance for a woman.
Of course, these types of gifts can be very welcome and useful, but if you want to give someone a romantic gift, you have to look in a different direction.
Free romantic gifts
Gifts don’t always have to cost money. For example, you can give your partner the following free romantic gifts:
- a homemade voucher for a loving back massage, and you are the masseur of course.
- a strip card for 10 kisses (always handy, and fun to make yourself with ten lipstick kisses in a row).
- a beautiful homemade card with a love poem on it.
- a breakfast in bed.
- Give your partner lots of compliments, this keeps the relationship going well, and often recall beautiful memories from the time you just met, this often has a positive effect on relationships that are under pressure.
- Visit places where you have previously experienced beautiful moments together, this can breathe new life into your love.
- put your names in the bark of a tree somewhere, with a heart next to it.
Romantic gifts that always work
There are many gifts that your partner will appreciate. The more personal, the more romantic it can be. For example:
- a photo book composed by you (these days you can have it made ready-made and individually, for example via Hema online) with the most beautiful photos in it, full of photos of your best moments together.
- a personal piece of jewelry. A ring or a bracelet, a necklace with a heart on it.
- a meal in a charming little restaurant.
- and CD with your favorite music.
- to the cinema for a romantic film, in a love seat.
- plant a tree together and call it the symbol of your love.
- a weekend away.
- and so on.
A thousand romantic ideas
If you want to bring romance into your relationship, there are a thousand romantic ideas to come up with. Romance always lies in paying attention to the other person, showing that you love someone. With gestures, words and actions. The message is: ‘this is just for you, and no one else, because I love you so much.’
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