Over time, your relationship threatens to become somewhat rutted. You raise the children and wind your way through the hectic life. There is a risk that you have lost track of each other. Secretly you also long for the early days of your relationship when tension was almost daily occurrence. The word “rut” just comes to you and you actually don’t want it. Above all, be yourself in your relationship and dare to surprise each other with a fun activity. Or do something crazy that you can enjoy immensely. Step by step, your exciting relationship of yesteryear will bubble up again.
Surprise each other on a regular basis
There’s nothing more fun than being surprised by your partner. Breaking the daily routine every now and then can do wonders. It is so natural to watch television every evening. Turn off the television and concentrate on a conversation with your partner. Ask your partner what he or she would really like to do and what he or she would find really exciting. This can even be very simple things like going to bed very early. Or simply clean out the wardrobe together and see which clothes still fit you. Try to be the first to surprise your partner and don’t constantly think: I’ll wait until my partner takes the initiative. However, permanently doing everything together is not a healthy relationship either. Making time for your own friends should certainly be possible and these conversations enrich your horizons. This way you can also tell your partner what was said during these conversations with friends and surprise each other in this way.
Show that you are there for your partner
Make sure you are there for each other and try to gain depth in your relationship. In the evening after your work activity, ask how it was at work. If necessary, ask whether your partner is still satisfied at work and whether it is time for something new. Try to help your partner look for a new job. This way you are working together to help each other. In this way you grow back together. If you have become mom and dad, you should try to divide the attention. In addition to being mom and dad, you also have a role as partners to each other. Being open about your relationship and daring to mention things that are not going well will also generate many new and exciting ideas in the long term. By telling about yourself and what you feel about it, sensitive chords are touched and you communicate very closely with each other. Understanding and feeling each other well is very important in a healthy relationship.
You have to keep talking
Don’t be left with pent-up feelings or arguments that cannot be resolved. Resolutely choose to have a conversation with your partner, even if it is not always easy. In the long term, this leads to absolute non-communication and you grow very distant from each other. Also, don’t try to put yourself in your partner’s place and fill in his or her thoughts. Definitely avoid the thoughts of My partner must be tired already or He doesn’t like doing that anyway, while your partner definitely wants to say the opposite and make an effort to break the rut. As a partner, let the other person clearly understand what you want.
Other tips for an exciting relationship
- Continue to take good care of your appearance. Both partners are sensitive to the fact that the other looks fresh, modern and well dressed. Naturally, it is more exciting to see your partner in beautiful and provocative clothing than to no longer take care of yourself.
- Respect is very important for women. A man who shows no respect for his wife’s feelings often reacts bluntly when they want to do something together. Respect is one of the keys to a healthy relationship.
- Don’t assume that things always have to be exciting in your relationship. Enjoying the “ordinary things in life” every now and then is part of it. And it is often said that enjoying the small, unimportant things in life is the basis of a successful love relationship.