Everyone has the blues at some point, and there is nothing wrong with that. If you give in to those feelings that can sometimes be traced back to a clear cause, sometimes not, you will prevent the same feelings from undermining or completely overwhelming you in the long run. It’s like household. If you regularly do the dishes and tidy up your house, you will prevent yourself from seeing a hole in it at a later date. The excessive emphasis on feeling good, going for it every day, active, not a cloud in the sky, is not realistic. You don’t have to be ashamed if you don’t feel like it or don’t feel strong. It’s part of existence. Sadness wants out. After crying comes laughter, without crying there is nothing to laugh about. Rest is necessary. To be alone and free to feel what you feel.
- Action and rest
- Depression and rest
- Alternating phases, giving space to the seasons of our condition
- Crying makes you laugh, crying relaxes you, crying brings understanding
- What can I? Do I want to accept? How do I want to watch?
- Pills against sadness and grief?
- Laugh, cry, you are well put together
Action and rest
In our world of achievement, achieving goals, working tirelessly with those around you and showing yourself that you are strong, there is little room for the dark side of existence. However, they are two sides of the same coin, light and dark. Laughing and crying go together. After a good cry, there is also room for open and free laughter. Those who are tired need rest. Denying tiredness and continuing against the odds is a form of not loving yourself in all facets. Allowing yourself to feel like you just can’t do it anymore, you don’t feel like doing it anymore, you don’t feel like doing it anymore, there’s nothing wrong with that.
Depression and rest
If you are in danger of feeling depressed, you can go to the doctor and get a pill, but why are you so afraid of difficult feelings? There is a beauty in it, even in sadness there is beauty. Why do we often find sad music so beautiful? When everything seems dark we think that it will never become light again, but that is just a phase that passes. Let life flow, even if you feel like you can’t handle it or face it anymore. Be kind to yourself, withdraw, don’t flee into all kinds of side roads and feel. Make sure you’re warm. Retreat to your house. That’s allowed. If you can’t be social, you have nothing left to give, it’s time to rest. Don’t be afraid of it and become your own best friend.
Alternating phases, giving space to the seasons of our condition
We have four seasons at our latitude. These can also symbolize your inner seasons. When storms occur in your life, the cold sets in, darkness falls around you, then that is a temporary thing. The more you give space to the process that takes place in your inner self, the sooner you can regain your vitality from your deep source of life. Resisting sadness, despondency, is sometimes practical and necessary, but it is equally necessary to let it be in its time. It also has to do with respect for life itself. You can see in nature how all elements have their place in the bigger picture, and this is no different with humans. Just as the ebb and flow each have a place, the ebb and flow in your life each have their function. Getting and staying close to your feelings prevents depression and leaves room for the blues. Listening to music that promotes this, whether it is blues, André Hazes, or classical music, gives space to breathe from your deepest being. Everything that lives in you has the right to exist.
Crying makes you laugh, crying relaxes you, crying brings understanding
What do we have tears for? This is how we can get rid of toxins, that’s the technical explanation. We have tears to shed. It is a safety mechanism, both on a physical and emotional level. Crying helps us accept and understand what is going on inside us. Only after a good cry do you gain insight into your own sadness and pain. Crying transcends the limited and sometimes rigid mind. After crying, we often start to yawn, as visible evidence of relaxation. What are we yawning for? This also helps us get rid of toxins. This is also a mechanism of the body to restore balance. How wonderful, our system is perfect, let us not doubt it and give space to all those natural ways and tendencies that help maintain balance in our existence.
What can I? Do I want to accept? How do I want to watch?
Overestimating or underestimating yourself, being disappointed in life and the world that surrounds you, has to do with not accepting what is. Acceptance is not easy, but it is easy to look at what is good. Start with that. That’s a matter of choice. People say that you are in control of your reality, but these are privileged people. The only thing you can control is how you think and look. That requires some training and a certain discipline, but it is worth it. Without closing your eyes to the misery in this world, you can still emphasize what is good. Changing yourself has a wider effect than just for yourself.
Pills against sadness and grief?
A pill against sadness can turn against you. I have seen grief leading to chronic bipolar disorder in my environment. Even though the doctor’s Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM) states that after six months you should no longer be sad about the death of your mother or a loved one and that medications can therefore be prescribed to dampen the feeling, that is why it is not necessary to you don’t have to do that yet. Because this may do more harm than good. Be realistic and give it time. That’s just the way it is.
Laugh, cry, you are well put together
Look at yourself and don’t doubt. You are well put together, your energy is as it should be. Love your nature that knows its seasons. Have respect for that beautiful system of body, soul and spirit. Humanity contains so much beauty within itself. Every individual has the ability to get to know and appreciate himself and the world in which he moves.
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- Therapy, or how to no longer linger in old pain
- PRI therapy: old feelings of pain in the present
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